MAKING LGBTQ+ FRIENDS LOCALLY

Find a local gay friend

This isn't a dating app. It's for meeting other LGBTQ+ people near you — the kind of ordinary friendship that gets weirdly hard to find as an adult. A standing coffee, someone to go to a gallery or a gig with, a familiar face when you've just landed in a new city. You can even get to know people online before you arrive. Say a little about yourself, and find others nearby doing the same.

By the Among Our People team · Last updated 4 November 2026

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How it works

There are three steps, and replies are always free.

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Make your card
A few lines about yourself, what you're into, and who you'd like to meet. Free, and takes a minute.
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See who's near you
Once it's up, browse others in the same city looking for the same kind of friendship. It's only visible to other members who've made theirs. There's no automatic matching: you choose who to talk to.
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Say hello
Message someone online whose card you like. No swiping, no games, just a friendly first hello. Starting a conversation costs 8 a year in your currency (€8, £8 or $8), and replies are always free.

Why adult friendship is harder than it looks

Making friends as an adult is harder than most people admit, at both ends of life. According to Meta-Gallup's 2022–23 survey across 142 countries, adults aged 19 to 29 reported more loneliness than people over 65. LGBTQ+ adults feel it more often: in the CDC's 2022 survey of nearly 219,000 adults in 26 US states, 41% of gay men and 45% of lesbians felt socially isolated at least some of the time, against 30% of straight adults.

More swiping doesn't fix that, although apps aren't the enemy either. What tends to help is seeing the same face more than once, a standing coffee or a quiz team. That's what a friend card is for. Making one costs nothing, and only other members who've made theirs can see it.

“Finding real friends can be very hard, even in our community. I hope I've built a real tool for young people arriving in big cities, and for older LGBTQ+ people isolated in the countryside, anywhere in the world.”
— Eric Crespin, founder of Among Our People